I know someone (we’ll call her Anna) who has had all her plans go to Hell, quickly. Nothing is developing the way she envisioned and she feels out of control and scared for the future. I received a text from one of Anna’s friends saying she was thinking of cutting her wrists. She had actually went so far as to put a knife to her skin. We all have been so worried about Anna because she isn’t the person we all know and love. We were trying to figure out what we should do. Who do you call? Anna is over 21 years old. No one can force her to do anything or go see anyone.
First, at this point, it probably wouldn’t be a good idea to have parents step in. It would be too much like you are telling Anna she being a child, and she could get very defensive.
Second, Anna is asking someone to rescue her, but that isn’t what she NEEDS. She needs to learn how to cope, but she doesn’t have to do it alone. It’s scary and most people would like to avoid or ignore the situation rather than admit they need to talk to someone.
My advice…one or two close friends need to sit down and help Anna find a therapist close to her so it’s easy for her to get to an appointment. Then they need to have Anna pick up the phone and make an appointment. If Anna is still hesitant, maybe a friend or two can go to the appointment with Anna and just wait in the waiting area.
Anna needs to help herself. If she is forced to go to therapy, she won’t get anything out of it.
If you suspect someone is going through something and they are in the mindset to hurt themselves. You owe it to them to step in and help. I am including some resources below in case you need them.
It takes everyone to Fight the Darkness.
National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1-800-273-8255 (they also have an online chat line)
Veteran Crisis Line 1-866-690-5341
National Text Crisis Line: Text LIFT to 741741
Most Health Insurance plans cover Therapy with a copay. They usually won’t cover Online therapy such as TalkSpace ($49-$79/week) or BetterHelp ($45-69/week). So check with your insurance company.