May I ask a question of the Universe? Where have manners and respect gone?
About a month and a half ago, a man who I has a few dates with and seemed to get along well with, implied he wanted things to become serious between us. Then sooner than the snap of your fingers, he did a 180 and said his schedule was too chaotic to date and he couldn’t spend the time with me that he wanted, and that he was sorry. I’ve been dating long enough to know a blow-off when I hear one. Well, a couple days ago he texted me again, saying, “Hi Baby!” Excuse me? You blew me off a month ago, you don’t get to call me Baby. Then he started talking like we had never split.
Where is the apology for hurting me? He even asked if I wanted to come over to his place for dinner. I told him, I don’t go to a man’s house on a first date. He laughed. Am I wrong? When you split with someone, you can’t get back with them and start where you left off. Especially when you don’t start the conversation with an apology, or a “What an absolute jerk I am!” WTF!!!! I’m sorry, but I have more respect for myself than that.
I was raised to treat people the way I would want to be treated, and I try very hard to do that. When you treat people with respect, you get respect…or at least should get respect. And if you don’t get respect, you need to speak up for yourself and let the person know they are being an asshole, or be ready to walk away.
I believe in saying please and thank you. I believe in apologizing when I have been wrong or hurt someone by something I did or said. I believe in not purposely hurting someone and acting like everything is fine. I think if everyone would remember their manners and treat people with respect, the World would be a much better place, and society would have less cases of Anxiety and Depression and Self-Harming behavior.
Just something to think about.